Is It Ever Too Late For Couples Counselling?
By the time some couples walk into my counselling room, they have been unhappy for a long time. They may have spent months or even years having the same arguments, living with very little emotional or physical connection, carrying unresolved hurt or slowly becoming more like housemates than partners. Often, one of the first things […]
How To Feel Heard In Your Relationship
One of the most painful things you can experience in a relationship is feeling as though the person closest to you isn’t hearing you anymore. You may be talking, explaining how you feel and trying to help your partner understand what is bothering you, yet somehow you walk away from the conversation feeling even more […]
How To Choose The Right Couples Counsellor
Deciding to see a couples counsellor is often something people think about for quite some time before they finally make an appointment. You may have reached a point where the same conversations keep going around in circles, you feel more disconnected than you used to, trust has been damaged or you simply know something between […]
How Parenting Changes Your Relationship
Becoming parents can be one of the biggest changes your relationship will ever experience. You can love your children deeply and still miss the relationship you had before life became centred around feeding, sleeping, school runs, appointments, work, washing and the endless list of things somebody needs to remember. Many couples don’t expect parenting to […]
Why We Repeat the Same Relationship Patterns | Couples Counselling
Have you ever promised yourself that things would be different, only to find yourself facing some of the same feelings again? Perhaps the circumstances have changed, yet somehow you still find yourself feeling unheard, trying too hard to keep the peace, pulling away when things become difficult or wondering why you seem to end up […]
Why Emotional Intimacy Comes Before Physical Intimacy
One of the conversations I find myself having quite often with couples doesn’t begin with communication or conflict. It begins with intimacy. Sometimes one partner quietly says, “We haven’t been intimate for months,” while the other looks down, unsure what to say. At other times, someone will tell me they feel rejected, unwanted or as […]
How Childhood Experiences Shape Adult Relationships
Have you ever found yourself reacting to something your partner said or did and later wondered why it affected you so deeply? Perhaps they forgot to call, became quiet during a conversation or seemed distracted, and before you knew it, you were feeling hurt, rejected or anxious. In the moment, it can seem as though […]
How to Repair After an Argument and Reconnect With Your Partner
This week in my counselling room, I found myself having almost the same conversation with two different couples. Both described an argument that had ended hours earlier, yet neither of them felt any closer to resolving what had happened. The words had stopped, but the hurt hadn’t. They had gone to separate rooms, thrown themselves […]
What If My Partner Doesn’t Want To Change?
There are few things more frustrating than feeling as though you’re the only one trying to improve your relationship. Perhaps you’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, suggested counselling or tried changing the way you communicate. Meanwhile, your partner seems to believe that nothing is wrong, or that if anyone needs to change, it’s […]
Does Couples Counselling Really Work?
If you’re thinking about Couples Counselling, you’ve probably asked yourself one important question. Does couples counselling really work? It’s a fair question. Many of the couples who walk through my door have already spent months and sometimes years, trying to improve their relationship on their own. They’ve promised to communicate better, agreed not to argue […]